It’s Monday and I challenge you to start your week off right and create your own affirmation today. I encourage you to do a 7 day affirmation challenge with me!
This week’s Woman Crush Wednesday is Tia Mowry. She is just cute and so is her little family. I love that she is one of the one’s who has made it from Disney Channel and is completely sane and is still doing well for herself. She currently has a TV show on the Cooking Channel called Tia Mowry at Home and also has a Podcast called Mostly Mom with Tia Mowry.
Self-care is care provided, “for you, by you.”
Identify your own needs and take steps to meet them. Sometimes we can get so lost in taking care of others that we forget to do it for ourselves. We also need to realize that self-care is NOT a selfish act, but instead a key to living a balanced life.
20 Ways to Practice Self-Care:
- Read a new book
- Take a walk
- Do Yoga or Meditate
- Doodle or color in a coloring book
- Listen to your favorite podcast
- Lay in the sun
- Watch the stars at night
- Breathe in the fresh air around you
- Smell fresh flowers
- Learn a new skill
- Turn off your phone
- Light a candle
- Do a DIY project
- Watch less TV
- Eat clean
- Stop comparing yourself to others
That podcast? Launch it.
That blog? Start it.
That book? Write it.
That idea? Flesh it out.
That app? Develop it.
That gift? Put it to use.
I think a lot of times, we as human beings, tend to get discourage when we feel like we aren’t where we’re supposed to be in life. At 13, I thought for sure I’d be a model somewhere. I found an old blog of mine and at 17, I thought I would have moved to Los Angeles, Miami, or New York and graduated with a fashion degree from the Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising, Miami International University or Fashion Institute of Technology with at least two boutiques opened right now, one in Los Angeles and one in Miami. At 24, I got the degree in fashion, but it was from none of those schools and I don’t have two boutiques open, I don’t even have one nor am I a model. However, after reading upon a couple of people and seeing that they got their start to fame or achievement of their goals at a late age, makes me feel better. As long as I don’t feel like I am pressured to start my career as a model or a store owner right now, things will start to fall in place, as long as I put in the work in order to do those things that I want. I’ve been blogging since 2010, 7 years later, I am on my third blog, but this one has had the most attention of them all and I plan on continuing to blog until I am the next Necole Betchie or Essence Mag. Just remember to always dance at your own rhythm. Don’t try to match anyone else’s rhythm or feel like you’re on a ticking time clock in order to achieve your goals because you’ll put too much pressure on yourself and eventually end of failing to do whatever it is that you have your mindset to do.
You ever been afraid to do something or try something new because your fear of failure, judgment or because in the back of your mind you have this self-doubt?
Recently, I’ve made the decision to go back to my alma mater to get my Masters in Student Affairs/Higher Education. I felt confident about my decision back in February when I first decided to move back, but as it’s getting closer and closer to the time for me to move, I’m start to fear that my decision is a mistake. Think about it, I currently have a good job working in Human Resources, I got accepted into an online MSHR program, and could live comfortably in Los Angeles. Now, I am literally pick everything up and going back to Kentucky, a city where I got into a lot of unnecessary trouble in undergrad in for the next two years to go a completely different route than what I was originally going in. I mean what if the path that God chose for me was HR? I mean after all, the main reason I moved to LA was to figure out what I wanted to do in life and God planted these jobs in HR (in which I had no experience in) in my lap. But then again, it’s also kind of like, I applied to this graduate program in May (deadline to apply is in March), got accepted into the program, and have been offered a position as a Resident Director (free housing, food, parking space, free laundry, etc.) and a Graduate Research Assistant that’s offering me a stipend and money off of tuition. Wouldn’t you think that, that is a blessing too?
However, I am just fearful that all of this is for nothing. What if I get back into the program, do my assistantship and job and end up not even wanting to be in Student Affairs anymore? What if I really want to stay in HR? What if God’s plan is for me to stay in Los Angeles? My plan is get my Masters and dip the fuck out of KY and head back to LA, what if something happens in the next two years and I can’t get back out here like I desperately want too?
I’ve been focusing on not getting discourage by it. At the end of the day, I can come and go however I please. If I decide that Student Affairs/Higher Education isn’t the route for me, I can always switch it up and get an MBA. I’ve also been looking at the situations I’ve been placed in since living in LA and thinking maybe it’s a good thing that I am moving back to KY. I am moving across the country and will not have to pay rent like I would if I stayed in LA, which will allow me the opportunity to get my credit together as well as save money to get back out to LA as planned. God is proving that He’s taking care of me by having all of this set up so that I don’t have to worry about anything financially.
I have to eliminate that fear I have of stepping backwards to get my Master’s degree so that I can move forward and have that job that I really want and have that salary that I really want when I come back to LA.
Remember, My God doesn’t make mistakes. If he didn’t want this for me, I wouldn’t be here in this position right now and I would have chosen to stay back in LA.
Self-proclaimed Awkward Black Girl, Issa Rae is definitely worthy of WCW this week. As usual when it comes to TV Shows, I always get on the wave late and I didn’t know anything about Insecure until after the season finale aired and everyone was talking about it, so of course I had to get the free trial of HBO and catch up on the show and see what it was all about. My GIRL Issa. At the time I had only lived in LA for about 5 months, but felt as if I could relate to the show to THE T. Since the show, my girl Issa has definitely evolved. The media is saying she went form a size 8 (although she looked and was probably more like a size 10 or 12) to a size 0 and I saw her in person at the Essence Festival and she is definitely now a size 0. She is also just gorgeous and amazing and an excellent writer, actress, and I really wish she would stop playing and give Kofi Siriboe a chance because they would make cute chocolate babies! 🙂
Are you #TeamLawerence or #TeamIssa? At the end of Insecure Season 1, I had a new found love for Jay R. Ellis. I don’t know if it was because I felt like I could relate to his pain in the show and I just wanted to give him a hug and some of my good loving after what my girl Issa did or if it’s that pretty smile that he has?
Anywho, all I know is that after watching Insecure and following him on IG and Twitter and seeing how genuine he is, he’s definitely earned a spot for our Man Crush Monday post.